帮助处于困境中的朋友

University students often experience a great amount of stress during the course of their academic experiences. While most students cope successfully with the challenges these years bring, some students find the various pressures of life unmanageable or unbearable. Many of these distressed students have not sought counseling and may be unaware of the services available to them.

You may encounter a friend in distress and your role could be a positive and crucial one in assisting him/her to find the resources available to help himself/herself. 下面的指导方针可能会有用. (如果你是教职员工, follow this link for information on how to help a distressed student: 教师资源 & 工作人员)

常见的痛苦迹象
The following signs may indicate a need to refer a student to the 咨询 & 测试中心:

行为上突然的/彻底的变化
与他人隔离
在很短的时间内感到忧郁
上课出勤率低
不适当的哭
偏执的状态
药物 & 酒精滥用
慢性疲劳/精力不足
愤怒:无法控制的或突然的愤怒爆发
注意/记忆困难
烦躁或不安
威胁伤害或伤害他人的
Mood or behavior change following a traumatic change in a relationship, such a divorce or death
Statements reflecting a sense of worthlessness, hopelessness, and helplessness
自杀的想法或感觉

咨询中心的咨询人员 & 测试中心 can also assist students that are struggling with:

社会/个人问题
职业选择/专业选择
物质使用
性侵犯
的关系问题
种族/文化调整
极度的考试/表现焦虑

建议的互动指引

与学生私下交谈
仔细听
表现出关心和兴趣
把学生告诉你的要点重复一遍
避免批评或听起来武断
建议咨询 & 测试中心 as a resource and discuss this with the student
向学生解释一下在心理咨询会上的心理咨询 & 检测中心免费且保密
If the student wishes, you may accompany him/her to the 咨询 & 测试中心
如果学生拒绝帮助，而你仍然担心, 联系你的宿舍院长或咨询中心 & 与测试中心讨论您的担忧
如果学生有自杀倾向，打电话给心理咨询中心 & 测试中心 (269-471-3470), 校园安全 (269-471-3321), or 911. If this occurs after business hours, please call 校园安全 (269-471-3321) or 911.

一些建议的咨询方法是:

"You seem very upset; perhaps it might be helpful to speak to someone. There are counselors available to students at the 咨询 & 测试中心."
“咨询对那些和你有同样感受的人很有帮助. If you would like, you may use my telephone right now to call the 咨询 & 来了解您如何预约考试. If you would like, I'd be glad to walk over with you now to find out about speaking with a counselor."
"You don't have to continue feeling so depressed (anxious, isolated, stressed out, angry, 等). 咨询可以有所帮助. 你为什么不走过去(或打电话)咨询呢 & 测试中心 (located in Bell Hall #123) and make an appointment to speak with a counselor?"

Feel free to use, amend or expand on any of the recommendations above. The most important thing is to present your concern in such a way as to enable the student to freely accept, 考虑或拒绝你的建议. Some people need time in order to think over the decision to seek counseling. 一个关心和温和的建议通常就足够了. 如果一个学生断然说不, then it is important to respect and accept that decision and to perhaps leave the door open for alternative consideration. If a distressed student resists help and/or you are still worried, you may contact the 咨询 & 与测试中心讨论您的担忧 and how to best assist him/her.

但是，如果你认为情况紧急，请致电校园安全(269-471-3321)或拨打911. Do not delay getting help for the student and making sure you are both safe.

咨询中心工作人员:要求咨询师

如果你不确定如何回应你的朋友, consult with one of the professional staff at the 咨询 & 测试中心. A counselor can help you explore how to approach your friend, assist you in identifying campus and community resources that might fit his/her needs, 并提供如何推荐的指导. Counselors are available during business hours for phone or in-person consultations at the CTC. You can call the front desk (269-471-3470) to schedule a phone consult or to arrange a meeting at the counselor’s office.

转介到咨询中心

建议学生打电话或来咨询 & 预约考试中心(CTC). 给 the CTC phone number and location (269-471-3470; Bell Hall #123). 你亦可建议学生浏览我们的网页(bet365中文.edu/ctcenter).
If you wish, you can ask your friend if you can call the CTC for him/her. You can initiate the call and then allow the student to make an appointment to speak with a counselor. Make sure your friend writes down the appointment time and date.
Sometimes it is helpful for you to accompany your friend to the CTC. Some students may find it comforting for you to wait while they meet with a counselor.
Follow up with your friend by inquiring as to whether he/she kept his/her appointment and how he/she felt about the session.
如果你关心一个学生, 但不确定转诊的适当性, 或者学生拒绝转介, 随时打电话给反恐委员会咨询.
如果你认为情况紧急, call 校园安全 (269-471-3321) or dial 911 before contacting the CTC. Do not delay getting help for the student's and your safety.

什么是咨询?

"Professional counseling is the application of mental health, 心理学或人类发展原理, 通过认知, 情感, 行为, or systemic interventions and strategies that address wellness, 个人成长, 或者职业发展, 以及病理学”(美国咨询协会). 咨询 is a collaborative effort between the counselor and client. A counselor can assist students to identify goals and potential solutions to problems which cause emotional imbalance, 提高沟通和应对能力, 增强自尊, 并促进行为改变和最佳心理健康. Together, a counselor and a student will set goals, work towards achieving them, and assess progress. 咨询可以有所帮助 students maximize their potential and make positive changes in their lives. 咨询 may be hard work at times, but change and progress do happen. A counselor can provide the help and support to a student may need to master the challenges of life. 我们提供短期个人和夫妻咨询. 我们还在学年期间提供小组咨询.

The three most frequent reasons people come to counseling are:

危机解决,关于失去一段感情, 家庭中的死亡, 压力过载, 孤独, 心身问题, 应对变化, 家庭危机, 等.
寻求慢性疾病的缓解 如抑郁症, 父母/孩子或孩子/父母的问题, 不愉快的关系, 饮食失调, 药物滥用, 工作或班级的压力, 愤怒, 或者自我挫败的行为
个人成长 通过增强自信, 提高自尊, 丰富人际关系, 增强自我理解

Most individuals who seek counseling are quite normal people who want to do something about their problems. 自 每一个人 在生活的各个阶段都有重大问题, counseling can be a normal part of the process of coping with them and finding ways to move beyond them towards further growth and meaning in life.

额外的校园和社区资源考虑

校园安全: 269-471-3321
University Student Intervention Team (USIT): 269-471-3321; usit@bet365中文.edu
学生生活主任: 269-471-3215
学生成功中心: 269-471-6096
校园部门: 269-471-3211; engagefaith@bet365中文.edu
大学医学专业:269-473-2222
贝里恩县受害者援助中心: 269-982-8640
邻居到邻居 (基督复临社区服务):269-471-7411
Riverwood中心24小时危机热线:800-336-0341